For Wives

Online Resources*


  • Beyond Betrayal: How God is Helping Women (and Couples) to Heal from Infidelity
  • Your Sexually Addicted Spouse, Dr Barbara Steffens, Marsha Means
  • Keep Walking: 40 Days to Healing and Freedom after Betrayal, Lynn Cherry
  • Intimate Deception, Sherri Keffer
  • Treating Trauma from Sexual Betrayal, Kevin B. Skinner
  • Why Does He Do That?, Lundy Bancroft
  • Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No, Dr Henry Cloud, Dr John Townsend

Resources for Small Groups

  • Door of Hope: facilitator training workbook
  • Rescued: A Woman’s Guide to Surving and Thriving After Sexual Betrayal * Shelly Martinkus
  • Journey to Healing and Joy workbook, Marsha Means
  • Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No workbook, Dr John Townsend
  • The Trauma Recovery Group, Michaela Mendelsohn and Judith Lewis Herman
  • When Your Husband is Addicted to Pornography: Vickie Tiede

Therapists and Coaches

For Those Fighting Porn/Sex Addiction



  • Slaying the Monster: Six Battle Strategies for Overcoming Pornography, Marcus Warner
  • Worthy of Her Trust: What You Need to Do to Rebuild Trust and Win Her Back, Jason Martinkus and Steve Arterburn
  • Help Her Heal: An Empathy Workbook for Sex Addicts to Help Their Partners Heal, Carol Jurgenson Sheets
  • Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain, Dr. William Struthers
  • Surfing for God, Michael J Cusick
  • Every Man’s Battle, Fred Stoeker and Steve Arterburn
  • Samson and the Pirate Monks, Nate Larkin
  • Loving People: How to Love and Be Loved, Dr John Townsend
  • Sons of the Father, Gordon Dalbey

For the Couple



  • Beyond Betrayal Couple's Guide
  • Worthy of Her Trust: What You Need to Do to Rebuild Trust and Win Her Back, Jason Martinkus and Steve Arterburn
  • Boundaries in Marriage, Dr John Townsend
  • Pure Sex: The Spirituality of Sexual Desire, Gordon Dalbey
  • The Best Sex for Life, Patricia Weerakoon
  • What Makes Love Last, John Gottman

For Children and Youth (and Those Raising Them)



  • There's What on My Phone -- Lisa Taylor
  • Good Pictures, Bad Pictures: Kristen A Jenson and Gail Poyner
  • Sex is Not the Problem, Lust Is - J Harris (teen)
  • Meet Mr. Smith: Revolutionize the Way You Think About Sex, Purity, and Romance - Eric and Leslie Ludy (teen)
  • Not for Kids: Liz Walker (ages 5-8)
  • The Purity Code: God’s Plan for Sex and Your Body: Jim Burns (pre-teen and teen)
  • Closing the Window: Tim Chester (older teen)
  • God’s Design for Sex: Stan and Brenda Jones (ages 3 to teen)”
  • Growing Up by the Book (ages 10-14), Patricia Weerakoon
  • Teen Sex (ages 14 +), Patricia Weerakoon

For Clergy

For Therapists and Coaches

For Social Action

For Research

In New Zealand

To find a counsellor: Sex Addiction Specialists Aotearoa
To find books: Oil of Joy Press


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