by Dan Drake, MFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S
This latest two-part post by Dan was originally posted on the excellent Banyan Therapy website under the title, So He Needs You to be His Mom and then Later Resents You for it: The impossible role some partners of sex addicts find themselves in
The post is addressed to both betrayed wives (partners
by Donna Meredith Dixon, of A Door of Hope ministries.
Headlines like “Sex addiction may affect 10 percent of men, survey finds: Women make up 40 percent of those affected," are fairly common across news outlets and social media. However, for the most part, awareness of what life is like for the millions struggling with sexual or porn addiction—as
This morning I woke up trying to pinpoint (not for the first time) what it is about a recent Christian movie on sex addiction that doesn’t sit right with me. The main message—that healing from addiction requires coming to realize God’s deep desire for intimate connection with us—is one I wholeheartedly believe.
So, why (in Kiwi
Today's post is from community member, Anna, in California. Anna wrote me this week to tell me about a resource she found extremely helpful in healing for her betrayal PTSD. Since this was a new resource to me I invited her to share her story and tell us about it.
It will be five years this May since
This week, Barb Steffens, founder of the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS) answers a Beyond Betrayal community member's questions about the frustration of setting boundaries around her husband's subtle acting out behaviors, hiding and gaslighting.
For those who would like to partake more directly of Barb's wisdom, she will be part of running a one-day workshop
Today I had the pleasure of interviewing Cat Etherington who lives on the other side of the world from me (in the UK). Cat runs a program for betrayed wives (and also their husbands/partners) through a ministry called The Naked Truth Project. She is also an APSATS certified partner coach.
I've long been a fan of Cat and her
Those of you who follow me on Facebook will know that I am part of organizing the Redeeming Sexuality and Intimacy conference which will be held in Houston this coming April.
The following is a re-post of an article that Barb Steffens inspired when she was here in New Zealand a couple of years ago, teaching and running a retreat
"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. —Jeremiah 29:11
With every new year, our hope rises. Maybe this will be the year he gets free of his "issues." Maybe this year won't hurt as bad as last
by Dan Drake, certified sex addiction therapist, clinical partner specialist. Please note this article has been published along with more information on surviving the holidays in this book.
Last week Dan shared the results from the first part of his survey of new and veteran Partners of Sex Addicts (PSAs). Questions included what was most difficult for you the first