Lisa Taylor

218 posts

For the Joy...

For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame... — Hebrews 12:2b

What is this joy thing that it would enable our Lord to endure such horrific suffering? According to the psychologists at Life Model (formerly Shepherd's House) joy is:

a dynamic relational experience. Joy is a “glad to be together” state amplified between two minds

Be Still and Know...? Part 2

Last week, Gaelyn Rae Emerson, a woman of extraordinary talents as a PSA coach, speaker and writer shared a story capturing the spiritual crisis experienced by many betrayed wives. This week, we finish that article with God's reply to his hurting daughter.


Be still and know?
Seriously, My dear one. How I know what I’m asking!

YES, I’M

Be Still and Know...?

This beautiful article, illustrating the spiritual crisis experienced by the majority of wives of sex addicts/men with problematic sexual behavior, was written several months ago by Gaelyn Rae Emerson. Gaelyn is a coach specialising in supporting wives who are separating/divorcing and she will be writing for Beyond Betrayal on this theme in the coming months. Today, however, the

Spiritual Warfare: Part 2

Last week I introduced the idea that our husband's porn/sex addiction may provide an opening for spiritual attack on him... and us (as well as our family and community).

As part of that discussion, I shared this free PDF resource from Deeper Walk International which guides the person who has committed the sexual (or other) sins through the process

Spiritual Warfare: for Wives of Sex Addicts

In Beyond Betrayal I quote counsellor, and recovered sex addict, Charles Finck as saying,

When you're dealing with sex addiction, you're always looking at a spiritual issue as well. Sex addiction opens up the person wide enough for Satan to drive a Mac truck in and start unloading.

Throughout the chapter, Our Battle, I detail some of mine and my

SA and Wife Blaming: Part 2

Last week our guest blogger, Jane Howcroft, shared insights from scripture on a common lie about lust—that men won't do it (or sexually act out) if they're being satisfied sexually by their wife.

Today, Jane is going to further dismantle the lies in the blog post that inspired this discussion: Making It Easy For Your Husband to Not Lust

SA and Wife Blaming

Today's post, the first in a two-part series, tackles a common myth circulating in the church, and beyond, that men wouldn't "wander" (i.e. use porn, lust, act out sexually with others) if their wives were just working harder to please them sexually. In other words... it's our fault when they have these issues.

It's a pleasure to have guest

His Resentment: Part 2

by Dan Drake, MFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S

Today's post by Dan follows on last week's. Together the two were originally posted on the excellent Banyan Therapy website under the title, So He Needs You to be His Mom and then Later Resents You for it: The impossible role some partners of sex addicts find themselves in.

The post is addressed

His Resentment: Part 1

by Dan Drake, MFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S

This latest two-part post by Dan was originally posted on the excellent Banyan Therapy website under the title, So He Needs You to be His Mom and then Later Resents You for it: The impossible role some partners of sex addicts find themselves in

The post is addressed to both betrayed wives (partners