All posts tagged in: 'betrayal trauma'

Damaged Identity

Those of you who follow me on Facebook will know that I am part of organizing the Redeeming Sexuality and Intimacy conference which will be held in Houston this coming April.

The following is a re-post of an article that Barb Steffens inspired when she was here in New Zealand a couple of years ago, teaching and running a retreat

A Season of Hope

"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. —Jeremiah 29:11

With every new year, our hope rises. Maybe this will be the year he gets free of his "issues." Maybe this year won't hurt as bad as last

The Pain: Fear

Today I want to acknowledge the most common (and natural) fears wives of sex addicts face – fear of future betrayal and fear for our children. Next week I’ll look at the more general and pervasive fears/anxiety that we face on this journey.

Fear Protects

Not all fear is bad. Fear is a God-given mechanism to help us avoid

The Pain

The pain of betrayal runs deeper than words can describe. When women try to express it verbally it’s almost always in the language of graphic violence:

“It felt like I had been stabbed in the heart over and over and was bleeding to death,” said one respondent of the 2104/2015 Survey of Wives of Sex Addicts.

Another stated:

Top Questions from Wives of Sex Addicts

Recently, Ted Schimer of Freedom Fight asked me if I could share with him what I find to be the most frequently asked questions from wives of porn/sex addicts. Over the next couple of weeks I'll post the questions, and responses, I shared. These questions come from my personal experiences with wives on this journey, as well as from