Last week Dan Drake explained how DARVO (deny, attack, reverse, victim, offender) can be used by an SA (or abusive person) to gaslight his wife and protect his addiction. This brought to mind another dynamic seen all too commonly in SA/PSA marriages: the drama triangle.
Stephen Karpman, a student in the transactional analysis school of psychotherapy, first published his
Last week certified sex addiction therapist and clinical partner specialist, Dan Drake, began looking at the topic of SA and OCD. This was in response to a community member question: “How often do you find the SA (sex addict) also has OCD?"
You can see the first part of Dan's answer here, where he dives into the various ways "sex
Today we continue our Ask the Experts series with Dan Drake, CSAT and CCPS (APSATS) answering the question “How often do you find the SA also has OCD”?
This is a good but difficult question: How often do sex addiction and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder go together? I’ve definitely seen these two conditions go together, so let’s
This week we kick off our "ask the experts" series with a question from a wife about her husband's porn addiction. Thanks to each of you women who sent in your questions for our experts to answer.
Husband in denial
Community member: Unfortunately, my husband will not acknowledge he has any problem—despite me finding porn on the computer and
by Michael Taylor
There are many things that I hate about my addiction and addiction in general. Over the next two weeks I'll discuss ten of them—but the reality is that the list is longer than that.
The thing that I hate the most about my addiction is the absolute devastation that it has caused my wife, my
In this final post in the series, 10 Things I Hate About Your Addiction, we take a look at narcissism. As a reminder, this is not an “us versus them,” series. Rather, the goal is to validate what many are seeing in their relationship with a sex addict (or someone with a pattern of problematic sexual behavior) – and help them
As we begin the process of wrapping up the 10 Things I Hate About Your Addiction series we are going to take a look at two related character traits often found in sex addicts: pride (this week) and narcissism (next week).
After these posts, my husband, Michael will be posting on "10 Things I Hate about My Addiction" — just to
This week the Ten Things I Hate about Your Addiction series continues with a look at apathy.
For those of you who might be new to the series, to date we’ve looked at how sex addiction frequently goes hand-in-hand with:
In our first post in the Ten Things I Hate About your Addiction series we looked at the issues of anger and hatred that are so often hallmarks of the addiction. This week we’ll be looking at the obvious next steps from these two poisonous traits… cruelty and violence.
In Beyond Betrayal, I discuss the topic of intimacy