All posts tagged in: 'divorce'

Please Don't Congratulate Me (on my Divorce)

by Amy Kate

Divorce. What a nasty word. Other than the lawyers who specialize in it, I am not sure anyone likes this word. As a Christian, it wasn't a word I even allowed in my vocabulary for a very long time. I remember very clearly the day I sat with my then fiancé and we agreed we would never

Alone and NOT a Loser (on Valentine's or any other day)

Valentine’s Day. For those whose relationship has not survived sex addiction, it’s a day that seems to rub our singleness in our noses. The implication of the Valentine’s message? "You’re missing out on the ultimate delight — romance. Too bad you’re such a loser."

Those of us who have been married to a man who is

Enough is Enough: Part 2

Last week was the first segment in an article by bestselling author Pastor Gary Thomas. Today, Gary continues with his thoughts on the church's stand on divorce: in the face of abuse (including porn addiction and abuse).

Gary began the message by quoting the following passage:

If anyone comes to me and does not hate father and mother, wife and

Enough is Enough

Reprinted with permission from the blog of best-selling author, Pastor Gary Thomas.

If anyone comes to me and does not hate father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters—yes, even their own life—such a person cannot be my disciple. — Luke 14:26

What does it mean to “hate” someone we are elsewhere called to sacrificially love? We

Divorce: The Hardest Decision

This is the final week in the Biblical Divorce series. The reason for tackling this rather uncomfortable topic is that there has been too much so-called biblical scholarship used to beat up wives on this and other topics over the ages. I believe this is done completely contrary to God’s will, His nature, and even contrary to good biblical

The Bible and Divorce

Last week I opened up the discussion of how “biblical scholarship” is often used to tell women in very bad situations that they can’t divorce their husband. The kinds of bad situations I have in mind are:

  • Habitual porn use and other types of sexual addiction/offending that may not involve “intercourse with a woman”
  • Emotional and spiritual abuse

Not Grounds for Divorce?

For awhile I’ve had it stuck in my craw that a number of our bible scholars – and even some pastors working in the sex addiction field – have been claiming that, from a biblical stand point, a woman whose husband is a habitual porn user has no (biblical) right to leave that husband.

Like many of you, I knew this