As a reminder, the purpose of this series is to validate what we may be seeing in our marriage to a porn/sex addict or someone with patterns of chronic
10 Things I Hate... Part 3
10 Things I Hate... Part 2
This week we continue our look at the destructive character traits that too often accompany sex addiction. Last week, we took a close look at the lying and the anger. Today, we’ll continue by looking at fear and cowardice.
Just as a reminder, this series is not an “us against them” rant. Rather the purpose is to help us
10 Things I Hate About... Your Addiction
Betrayal wounds. Terribly. However, as I walk with women on the journey to healing from betrayal, I often hear how it’s not just his betrayal that is harming them.
There’s something about discovering our husband’s sexual/porn addiction that enables us to put down any rose-colored glasses we might have had on and begin to see how
Shame on Who? Part 2
Last week, I introduced the "Shame on... who?" series with a look at the problem: women have strong reactions to their husband's addiction and are then attacked for "shaming him."
I explained that part of the issue was that since the 1970's addiction has been framed as a disease. In the "disease" model the addict is seen as having "no
I've been contemplating for some time now writing a post on the "don't shame your husband" mantra traditionally heard in recovery circles. However, I'm glad I waited. It wasn't until I read that book I keep going on about, The Solution of Choice: Four Great Ideas that Neutralized Western Christianity that the rest of the pieces fell into place for
Lies We are Told about Sex Addiction: Part 2
This week we continue from last week's post with yet more lies circulating in parts of the therapeutic community that are unhelpful to porn/sex addicts and their spouses.
3. Your husband isn't a sex addict...or is he?
Many women have felt incredibly invalidated when they were told their husband wasn’t actually a sex addict. The conversation with
Lies We're Told About Sex Addiction
For the past several month I’ve been doing research (as part of my schooling) on sex addiction. At times the journey has been frustrating and painful at other times enlightening and helpful.
Over the next two weeks I’d like to address four bits of nonsense I’ve heard from sex addiction and sexual health "experts” about porn/sex
She's Not the Enemy: Part 2
Today we continue with Jeff Hutchinson's excellent article aimed at SA husbands that he started for us last week.
In the book Your Sexually Addicted Spouse, Barbra Stephens and Marsha Means provided the sex addiction community with a new model for understanding betrayal. Dr. Stephens proposed that the symptoms experienced by the partners of sex addicts are identical
Questions from WSA: Part 3
Over the last few weeks I've been answering the question: what are the top 10 questions you've heard from wives/partners of porn and sex addicts and how would you answer these? Ted Shimer of Freedom Fight, has now created a handout with these questions and some succinct answers that will become a resource for his organization going forward. Today