All posts tagged in: 'abuse'

Gaslighting: Opting Out

By MJ Denis, LPC, LMFT Associate, CST, CCPS

Figuring out that you have been gaslighted is often a mixed experience. On one hand, you may feel a sense of relief and validation. If you have been gaslighted, you may have felt confused, off balance, and at times even wondered if you were going crazy. You may have doubted yourself or

Gaslighting: Part 2

We are very fortunate to have PSA therapist, MJ Denis, sharing over the next few weeks. Last week, MJ explained the phenomenon of gaslighting — a form of manipulation/emotional abuse that's very familiar to many wives of sex addicts. MJ then went on to briefly introduce the three typical gaslighter profiles, and give us examples of the first: the "glamour"

Gaslighting: Part 1

Over the next several weeks, Texas-based PSA counselor, MJ Denis is going to share on a form of emotional abuse that is familiar to many wives/partners of sex addicts. Many thanks to her for sharing her wisdom with the community!


Surviving Gaslighting: Know Your Gaslighter

by MJ Denis, LPC, LMFT Associate, CST, CCPS

Gaslighting occurs when one person attempts

Shame on Who? Part 2

Last week, I introduced the "Shame on... who?" series with a look at the problem: women have strong reactions to their husband's addiction and are then attacked for "shaming him."

I explained that part of the issue was that since the 1970's addiction has been framed as a disease. In the "disease" model the addict is seen as having "no

Shame on...Who?

I've been contemplating for some time now writing a post on the "don't shame your husband" mantra traditionally heard in recovery circles. However, I'm glad I waited. It wasn't until I read that book I keep going on about, The Solution of Choice: Four Great Ideas that Neutralized Western Christianity that the rest of the pieces fell into place for

Enough is Enough: Part 2

Last week was the first segment in an article by bestselling author Pastor Gary Thomas. Today, Gary continues with his thoughts on the church's stand on divorce: in the face of abuse (including porn addiction and abuse).

Gary began the message by quoting the following passage:

If anyone comes to me and does not hate father and mother, wife and

I'm Being Gaslighted: What Do I Do?

By MJ Denis, LPC, LMFT Associate, CST, CCPS

Figuring out that you have been gaslighted is often a mixed experience. On one hand, you may feel a sense of relief and validation. If you have been gaslighted, you may have felt confused, off balance, and at times even wondered if you were going crazy. You may have doubted yourself or

Why People Gaslight

By MJ Denis, LPC, LMFT Associate, CST, CCPS

Gaslighting is a term used to describe a set of behaviors one person uses to create confusion in another person by altering the recipient’s reality. Gaslighting can be unintentional, semi-conscious, or intentional.

Anyone can be a gaslighter, and most gaslighting happens unintentionally.

Unintentional Gaslighting

For example, recently I gaslighted my son.

Surviving Gaslighting: Part 2

We are very fortunate to have PSA therapist, MJ Denis, sharing over the next few weeks. Last week, MJ explained the phenomenon of gaslighting — a form of manipulation/emotional abuse that's very familiar to many wives of sex addicts. MJ then went on to briefly introduce the three typical gaslighter profiles, and give us examples of the first: the "glamour"