In this last post in our spiritual crisis series, I am again drawing from one of the responses to the 2015 joint Beyond Betrayal/ACOJ spiritual crisis survey. I will also be sharing some of my own story of overcoming spiritual crisis... where it overlaps a bit with this respondent's journey.
This respondent, the wife of a sex addict who
One of the respondents to the 2015 Spiritual Crisis survey wrote:
“After 13 years of fake recovery, I left him and had two churches turn against me because they believed him… I’m considering joining a bar instead of a new church.”
So many of us, after barely surviving the pain of betrayal, find we then have to endure the
Of the three surveys I have conducted with A Circle of Joy, this one on spiritual crisis was the one that brought forward the most women identifying as:
- women in ministry
- pastors' wives/ex-wives
or the wife/ex-wife of someone in ministry
It’s fairly clear that women in these positions carry a unique burden of shame and pain around
This week we begin exploring spiritual crisis, in wives of sex addicts, that centers on the church and other Christians. Many of the women who responded to our June/July 2015 spiritual crisis survey relayed stories of pain and trauma induced by other Christians and church leaders. This is unfortunately an all too common occurrence worldwide. (See last week’s
As mentioned last week, the Beyond Betrayal/JHJ spiritual crisis survey results showed that 63% of women experienced a crisis of faith upon discovery of their husband’s betrayal. The crisis centered on either God, on the church or on both.
At present we are exploring women’s painful feelings toward God and the thoughts that fueled those feeling. In
In June and July 2015, Beyond Betrayal, Journey to Healing & Joy (JHJ) and Donna Meredith-Dixon (A Door of Hope) teamed up to do a survey of wives of sex addicts. The theme of this particular survey was spiritual crisis and spiritual growth. We had a good response, with over 100 women filling out the survey and sharing their stories.
Last week we looked at some of the scriptures that are often used to abuse (i.e. berate, blame, trap) wives of sex addicts. Today we will look at some scriptures that would seem to say something quite different to us. We will end by exploring how we know where to focus and what to do.
Thank you for the
I find it incredibly painful to hear scripture being used to keep the wife of a sex addict in an unhealthy place. Sometimes it’s her husband that’s quoting the passages, sometimes it’s her pastor or another Christian. Sometimes she herself is quoting scriptures to try and justify inaction in the face of evil.
The use of scripture
Last week was the first segment in an article by bestselling author Pastor Gary Thomas. Today, Gary continues with his thoughts on the church's stand on divorce: in the face of abuse (including porn addiction and abuse).
Gary began the message by quoting the following passage:
If anyone comes to me and does not hate father and mother, wife and